TIP: Magic Trick – Hack the Wand (Dick)


It’s hard to imagine anyone reading this who doesn’t already know about, or own, the [formerly Hitachi branded] Original Magic Wand. They have been available commercially in mainstream markets since 1968 and are seemingly ubiquitous in porn. I have labeled ours a Powerful Orgasm Extractor because it does the trick for Jane every single time and quickly too! Of course, it’s a bit powerful and can overwhelm the senses… which is why I hacked the power supply to create better control.

The Original Magic Wand is so thoroughly intense that its vibrations will travel all the way through your body and out the other side. During sex, if the ball end is held firmly against my perineum (behind my balls, between my legs) it turns my dick into a vibrator. Or if Jane holds it in front, against her pelvic bone, I get treated to a vibrating vagina. I’ve been known to use it on my own too, it’s not just for the ladies!

It’s good for sore backs too, but enough about that.

Why are there only 2 settings; low and high? Since 1968 no one at Hitachi thought (or was told) that more settings would be better? Like some dark, communist disregard for consumer desire or market forces. “It’s good enough!” they must have said. “If they don’t like it, let them walk around with sore muscles!”. Tone deaf.

To fill the gap in consumer demand, some companies over engineered a solution and brought Speed Controllers to market specifically branded for use with the Magic Wand. They have switches and dials and sit at the other end of the Magic Wand’s cord, away from where the action is, and they can cost about half as much as the Magic Wand itself. No, sorry.

Hitachi Magic Wand Hack

On-Cord Lamp Dimmer

If you want an inexpensive, really easy solution that is highly effective then look no further than your local hardware store. Sold out in the open (just like the Magic Wand “Muscle Massager” *wink*) are dimmers made to work with standard everyday lamps. There are 2 basic kinds; plug-in dimmers and on-cord dimmers. I chose the latter to keep control near the operational end. It required I cut the cord though… and that was a moment of deep reflection on how bad we really needed this hack! It worked out just fine.

We now have great control over the intensity of our Magic Wand’s vibration; slow to start and high gear when the squirming starts. This also reduces the occurrence of itchy and/or numb skin which can be a problem after normal use at the manufacturer assigned speeds. Clip the cord on those short sighted speed mandates and take control! Regrets, you’ll have but none.


Our Recommendations, Updated!


We occasionally take a day or two off from our regular routines to spend them focused on each other (you can read about some of those days here) which involve cracking open the sex toy vault to liberate our favorite forms of entertainment. It occurrs to us that we really have a significant collection of stuff… some of which we have written about (or reviewed) but much of which we have never mentioned here.

There is so much crap on the market! We think we have sorted through enough lousy More >

Revel Body SOL

Revel Body SOL – Sonic Vibrator (Improved)


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SOL is the latest incarnation of the much loved original Revel Body Sonic Vibrator and it offers up some significant improvements over a vibe Jane had previously dubbed one of the best she had used. This new version looks nearly identical, is it really any better? We tried it out side by side with the original Revel Body ONE and the answer is YES!

What We Really Liked • More powerful than the original • Simplified frequency selection • Better design of Core Tip More >

Sexual Preference, Porn, and Secrets


Hi. I have some issues that I hope someone can help me with. First of all, I live in a very small town with very few counseling resources. Plus everyone knows everyone’s business so am hesitant to ask for local help. Came across this website (thru averagemarrieddad.com) and thought maybe this could be a safe place for me to ask some stuff. I wrote an extensive (and I do mean extensive) email, but it was too long to send. In a nutshell, some of my issues include a strained marriage due to a More >

20th Anniversary

20 Years And A Thank You! (Dick)


Jane and I celebrated 20 years of marriage yesterday. Holy crap! Has it really been that long since Jane teased me in the car? We had a great day together 20 years ago and another one just yesterday. I am sharing this with you because we have this site and its readers to thank for making our 20th special. I’ll get back to that further down, but let me first tell you about our day!

Unlike our wedding day so long ago, this day started with sex. Showers first, then back to bed… I can’t think of a More >


Advanced Cock Ring (Tantus)


Tantus Advanced Cock Rings

A silicone cock ring which has flex (like it’s easily squeezed into an oval shape) but very little stretch. It is made to be worn behind the balls and provides excellent retention for erectile tissue. “Advanced” refers to the size (Tantus’ smallest of this type) combined with this ring’s lack of stretch.

What We Really Liked

• Comfortable to wear • Harder, thicker erection • Delayed ejaculation • Durable and easy to clean

Physical Description

With an inner diameter of More >


How To Size A Rigid Cock Ring (Dick)


If you have never used a cock ring, or don’t know why someone would, we addressed related questions in our post How Do Cock Rings Work? and I can tell you from experience they are a great accessory for any man (and couple!) to own and use: A Solid Investment.

There are a variety of cock ring types available and a good primer on the basics can be found on the Sex Is Fun website. Buying the right size ring is important, especially if it is a rigid ring made of something like steel or aluminum. I More >

Pussy Eating

The Pleasures Of Giving Oral Sex (Dick)


Receiving oral sex is great for many reasons which need no explanation, but what about giving oral sex? Can a person find pleasure in performing an act which, on the surface, appears to be so one sided? Yes, of course. But perhaps it is not entirely for the altruistic reasons you suspect. Let me back up to get a running start at this.

You’ve Got A Lot Of Nerve

The head of a woman’s clitoris (just the visible part) is packed with 8000 sensory nerve endings (interestingly, that’s about twice the More >


Have You Checked In Lately? (Dick)


People change. They grow, they contemplate, they fantasize. Sometimes they get bored… and every once in awhile there may be a paradigm shift that spins a person’s perspective, ideals, and desires in unexpected directions.

If you are in a long term relationship and you think you have your finger on the pulse of your partner’s desires you might want to double check your assumptions. Maybe you don’t know the whole story any longer.

Or perhaps it is you who has discovered something new about what More >

Revel Body Winner

We Have a Winner!


We are very pleased to announce the winner of our Revel Body Sonic Vibrator giveaway!

This was a fun promotion for us because we love our own Revel Body and knew that whomever took this prize home would be very happy. Orgasmically so.

If you don’t know about this unique sonic vibrator, read our review and/or read about it direct from Revel Body. Its hallmark is an impressive range of vibration, it is discreet, waterproof, and very well made.

CONGRATULATIONS to our winner selected from the many, More >

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