Receiving oral sex is great for many reasons which need no explanation, but what about giving oral sex? Can a person find pleasure in performing an act which, on the surface, appears to be so one sided? Yes, of course. But perhaps it is not entirely for the altruistic reasons you suspect. Let me back up to get a running start at this.
You’ve Got A Lot Of Nerve
The head of a woman’s clitoris (just the visible part) is packed with 8000 sensory nerve endings (interestingly, that’s about twice the number in an entire penis) and, when it is stimulated, every one of those nerves sends signals to the brain in unison where they get processed by her Pleasure Center and activate a feedback loop which makes her desire more of the same (I’m not making this up). Blood flow increases to the area to keep the hard working nerve cells supplied with oxygen and energy so they can continue their rapid fire bombardment of her increasingly aroused brain. This goes on until the stimulation becomes overwhelming, areas of the brain in charge of reason and behavioral control flicker off, and voilà… orgasm.
While I am certain I just oversimplified a very complex physiology, it seems to me that the volume of [sensory] neural network traffic sent brainward is directly correlated with a person’s perception of physical pleasure. Like, the more nerve signals terminating in, and electrifying, the brain the greater the reward. In the example above, her nerve packed clitoris would be like an exposed electrical terminal on a heavy gauge cable run straight through her body and grounded in her head. It’s a powerful up-link directly to her Pleasure Center with the potential to light it up.
There are other parts of the body which are highly innervated as well and, interestingly, many are associated with sexual pleasure and/or arousal; lips, tongue, ear lobes, finger tips, nipples, anus, and genitals among others. Each one capable of pleasurable sensation on its own. Combine simultaneous stimulation of two or three and what happens? Greater pleasure. The more sensory stimulation in, the better the ride. Read that last sentence again and let it sink in.
Come To Your Senses
If you are a normal, healthy human you have five senses; touch, taste, smell, hearing, and vision. From the neck down you have only one of these… touch. Above that you have all five! On top of that neck of yours, you carry around a sensory powerhouse capable of processing the world around you with 500% more clarity than the rest of you. There is great variety in the sensory information your face can send to your brain. Can these senses produce pleasure? Of course! You enjoy the taste of many foods, smells that trigger memory or emotion, and lighting or visual cues which can calm or excite. Each floods the brain with stimulation and involving these senses directly in sexual play (getting your face right in there) can elicit feelings of pleasure.
Soak It All In
Additionally, your sinuses and mouth are lined with thin tissue permeable to hormones in your partners sexual juices and pheromones in their excited scent. These go straight to your blood and quickly find receptors capable of putting them to work affecting your state of mind. You are the chemistry of your body and sexual contact facilitates an intermingling capable of orchestrating incredible convergence of bodies and minds. If you’ve ever had really great sex then you are probably familiar with this synergy.
Not A Selfless Act
Personally, I get great pleasure from burying my face between Jane’s legs. Her obvious arousal is a real turn on but I am convinced there is more to it than just that. I taste, I smell, I see, my lips and tongue feel as I trace lines through her folds and kiss her sensitive clit. I drink her in, both figuratively and literally, I get drunk on her lust and satisfaction from her orgasm. It’s a sexual experience I crave like many others, I desire it because it brings me pleasure. It’s not selfless.
Of course, this is my own experience and my own theory to explain it. What do you think? If you love to perform oral sex on your partner let us know what it is that drives that desire in the comments below.
People change. They grow, they contemplate, they fantasize. Sometimes they get bored… and every once in awhile there may be a paradigm shift that spins a person’s perspective, ideals, and desires in unexpected directions.
If you are in a long term relationship and you think you have your finger on the pulse of your partner’s desires you might want to double check your assumptions. Maybe you don’t know the whole story any longer.
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I was abruptly awoken by a PMS day. The slamming drawers, mumbled expletives, and general frustrations of Richter magnitude rattling out of our bathroom were a dead giveaway that Jane would soon be blessed again with the crimson gift of womanhood.
She’s an early bird who gets more done before I wake up in the morning than I get done all day and this day was no different. Jane had been up for some time, was dressed, and ready to take our Golden Retriever for a walk. Her aggravation crescendo had More >
She’s done it again! Rori over at Between My Sheets has compiled a gigantic list of sex blogs, the best she found this year.
We have been on Rori’s Top 100 Sex Bloggers List in years past but it seems we keep climbing… she placed Dick-n-Jane.com at #6 for 2013. We are very honored to be a part of her annual tradition and hope you take some time to check out all her blog has to offer.
Top 10 From The Top 100 List
We recently took a day off from our regular routines to spend it focused on each other (you can read about that here) which involved cracking open the sex toy vault to liberate our favorite forms of entertainment. It occurred to us that we really have a significant collection of stuff… some of which we have written about (or reviewed) but much of which we have never mentioned here.
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My husband and I have been married for 2 years and together for 6. He has always said that he has thought sex was “yucky” and that he never wants it. When we are intimate I feel like he is just going through the motions to make me happy. I am generally unable to help him achieve an erection, nor can I help him come to an orgasm. I am a psychology major working on my Bachelor’s of Science, so I understand that there are some underlying psychological issues at play here. However, he frequently More >
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Hi guys, I just recently discovered your website and I love it! You two have what I’m looking for. Here’s my dilemma. I have never had an orgasm. I’ve been to doctors who told me that there is nothing wrong with me physically so it must be mental. I’ve never given myself emotionally totally to a man (I’m 50 yrs old). I’ve always been able to walk away from a relationship without much hurt. Could that be the reason? I love sex but my heart has never felt safe with a man. How can I relax and More >
One Saturday afternoon recently Jane said to me, “If you go to Starbuck’s to get me some coffee I’ll give you a blowjob”. There was only one way to answer such a proposal and it sounded a lot like a door slamming followed by a car racing away.
She got her fix. And I got mine.
I have suffered through enough corporate ethics and sexual harassment training meetings to recognize sexual “quid pro quo” when I see it… and I love it! Sure I’ll do you a favor, so long as my More >