A bit embarrassed but here goes:

I am 195 lbs, former college football player who has stayed in shape with lifting weights and running. I am also “short” where it counts (like 2.5 hard inches). Even so, I have a “fairly good” sex life. I am good at oral and using my fingers to get her off. The one position that works for me is her on top and grinding on my pubes. Anal works most of the time if I hold her tight so she doesnt lunge forward. We just want to know if there is something new you guys know of that we can try.

Otherwise, she and I have been to several nudist resorts and I am not too shy about my size since pool water makes most guys shrink a little.

– Russ

Dr. Antoinette Izzo D.H.S., M.A.
Profile | Facebook Page
It sounds like you are fairly well adjusted and comfortable with who you are, so I begin with a “kudos to you!” for that. You’re at least one step ahead of the game, considering that the biggest hurdle to overcome when dealing with these sorts of concerns is usually self acceptance.“We just want to know if there is something new you guys know of that we can try.”If you are referring to trying to alter the size of your penis, there are at least a couple of important things to keep in mind: Surgical methods of penile enlargement remain controversial and are characterized by an unacceptably high rate of complications, and non-surgical methods are highly popularized by the media but often lack scientific evidence. I’ve come across only a single peer-reviewed article (Oderda & Gontero, 2011) that briefly analyses the efficacy and scientific background of such non-surgical methods of penile lengthening. This article found that “penile extenders represent the only evidence-based technique of penile elongation… making these traction devices an ideal first-line treatment option for patients seeking a penile lengthening procedure.”

If you research online, you will likely come across numerous ads for these “penis stretchers.” They claim to work by applying continuous stretch to the penis over an extended period of time, causing microscopic tears in the tissue that “grow” the penis when the body repairs them. Because there is so little evidence to support these claims, and because your primary concern seems to be about function over form, my personal recommendation is to forego trying to change your penis size and instead focus on experimenting with new sexual tools and techniques in your relationship.

If penetration is important to you and your partner (and I stress the “if,” because plenty of women prefer oral and/or manual stimulation over penile penetration), consider trying a strap-on, or a penis extension (which is essentially a hollow strap-on) or penis sleeve. If you are concerned about “slipping out” during penetrative sex but don’t want to use one of these enhancement tools, have your partner remain on top and gyrate back and forth in circles instead of up and down. If penetration is not your (or her) main concern, focus on foreplay (i.e. kissing, caressing, biting, etc.) and on stimulating her clitoris (manually or orally).

Oderda, M., & Gontero, P. (2011). Non-invasive methods of penile lengthening: fact or fiction? British Journal of Urology International, 107 (8), 1278-1282.

Dick of Dick-n-Jane.com
(layman with a website)
Russ – Your concerns about peformance are obviously about her pleasure, not yours, so kudos for that. Is your penis size also an expressed issue for her? If she is happy with you as a person, as a loving partner committed to her happiness, growth, and pleasure then you are a better partner than many men.Dr. Izzo (above) has some great information that is backed up by research, I can’t really add much to the topic here but I’ll tell you some ideas that came to my mind. Since this is a topic so familiar to you I seriously doubt any of these ideas will be novel, but here it goes…Surgical Implant – Seems extreme to me and the risks outweigh any possible benefit (IMO), but the option is available.

Penis Stretching – This technique makes me think of Bully Sticks. As Dr. Izzo mentioned, there is some research to support this idea but I personally would want more information about the possible short and long term effects to erectile tissue.

Grow A Big Dick Pills – Snake oil, period.

Enlargement Sleeve – Lessens the sexual sensation for you, but keeps you in the game. They look like this (picture) and you could find some here (*wink*).

Harness and Dong – Replaces your penis with a false one (which reminds me of a Monthy Python line). This option could supply endless pleasure for her but would truly be a giving act on your part.

Double Penetration – Put a good butt plug in her ass before having vaginal sex. This will increase the sense of fullness for her as well as provide a tighter fit for you. (this is my favorite idea)

Open Your Relationship – Help her pursue her interest in a larger cock outside your relationship and participate fully with her. This takes a special kind of couple to work successfully.

Buy a Big Truck – The bigger the better… and don’t forget the oversized tires!